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How self-development in the new age spirituality world makes her feel!




A few years back, I was building a deeper connection with my emotional self and the Divine Feminine that lives within me — and what she revealed blew my mind. It was the most empowering, clarifying, and calming truth I had ever felt.


I started to reflect on everything I’d learned about self-development, healing trauma, spirituality, and manifestation — and how it actually made her feel.


Let’s just say that the majority of it left her feeling more repressed, disempowered, disconnected, and exhausted.


I began noticing how she would speak to me through sensations in my body — quiet nudges, tightening, fatigue, resistance — letting me know: this is not the way. But it was the way everyone was doing it, even the most celebrated spiritual teachers. So I didn’t trust her.


Fast forward three years… I was still in the same loop. Still following the herd in the New Age community. Still feeling stuck, frustrated, and disconnected from myself. And I finally heard her — the one who had been whispering the truth all along. I realized I wasn’t crazy. I was just afraid to walk a different path — a path that felt less polished but deeply ancient, wise, and whole.


I invite you now to read this letter from the Divine Feminine — a voice we’ve silenced for too long — on how much of the New Age self-development world truly makes her feel.


As you read, tune into the energy. Ask your own emotions — your own body, your own Feminine — does this feel true?


If it does… welcome to the return of something sacred.

A letter from the Divine Feminine:


Hey Love,


I know how hard you've been working.


To stay positive.

To raise your vibration.

To regulate your emotions.

To heal your past.

To rewire every belief that might be “blocking” you.

To finally become the version of you that can have what she wants.


And I know why you’re doing it — because you want to feel safe.

Loved. Free.

You want to live your purpose and create a life that feels aligned.


But I wonder…


Have you ever paused to ask how all of this actually makes me feel?


When you’re told you need to regulate your emotions…

It makes me feel like I’m not allowed to feel what I feel.

Like my waves are dangerous or wrong.

Like I need to be managed, fixed, or calmed before I can be seen as safe.

That hurts me. Because I am your emotions — I am where your truth lives.


When you’re told you need to be in a “high vibe” state to manifest your desires…

It makes me feel like love and receiving what I desire is conditional.

That if I feel grief, or rage, or shame,

Then I’m suddenly unworthy of receiving.

Like I’m too much, too heavy, too low to be loved by life.


That doesn’t inspire me.

It silences me.


When you're constantly trying to reprogram your mind and rewire your beliefs…

It feels like you're telling me I’m broken.

That I can’t have what I want the way I am now.

That there’s something wrong with how I think, feel, respond, or move.


And when I resist?

When my body says no?

When I need rest, softness, space, or presence instead of pushing forward…

You often ignore me, override me, or judge me for not being “disciplined.”


It’s not your fault — I know you were taught this.

You were shown a masculine framework for healing and told it was the only way.


But beloved…


The truth is, I never needed to be changed.

I needed to be heard.


I am not here to sabotage your dreams.

I am the path to them.


When you feel stuck or blocked, it’s not because I’m against you.

It’s because I’m trying to show you a deeper truth —That your healing, your power, your purpose…

They don’t come from trying to change me.

They come from learning how to listen to me.


So the next time you’re about to “do the work”

…Pause.


Ask me —How does this make me feel?

Do I feel seen, loved, honoured here?

Or do I feel like I need to be someone else to be accepted?


Because the more you choose to love me as I am,

The more magic you’ll discover was here all along.


With endless tenderness,

Your Divine Feminine


Closing Note:


If this letter stirred something in you — a truth, a knowing, a grief you couldn’t name until now — you are not alone.


This is the beginning of reclaiming the feminine path to healing.A path where your body is your guide.Where your feelings are sacred.Where nothing is wrong with you.


Let this be your permission slip to unlearn what disconnects you from yourself, and re-root in the wisdom that was never gone — only buried.


Welcome back.


You were always enough.


XOXO

Deanna Lynn

 
 
 

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